Being a parent is sometimes hard enough, even if our children present as “neurotypical”. Being the parent of a child who is struggling, whatever kind of educational setting they are in is something that parents of apparently neurotypical children cannot begin to comprehend.
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It may surprise, or even comfort you to know that almost everyone around us has “retained reflexes”. Yes – even this is not just your quirky children: there are also adults with retained reflexes.
In fact, some people theorise that, very often, retained reflexes are in fact due to generational trauma combined with environmental factors. They can also be reactivated as a result of extreme trauma – including a very stressful pregnancy or a difficult or traumatic birth.
From my own personal experience, I discovered that dealing with my own reflexes has helped me to be a much better parent. I’ve been far more sympathetic to my child’s challenges, and those of other people. Working with reflexes has helped countless parents to deal with the special needs minefield, or even with school playground politics.
Reflex integration helps people deal with the stresses that everyday life throws at them. It helps them to not let things “get to” them, let things go more easily, switch off more easily at night. It helps people process and move on, makes people more patient and more efficient.
Working with your own retained reflexes can also affect your child’s behaviour, anxiety and even their general progress with a programme. This is because you will gain a far deeper understanding of your relationships with your children, partner and even friends/work colleagues.
Around 40% of my clients are adults with retained reflexes. They are mainly parents who have come to me about their child initially, and then decided that they would like to experience change first hand. I’ve seen many amazing transformations – better balance, better concentration, better working memory, reduced anxiety…
If you would like to book an appointment to come and see me, please send me an e-mail.
An adult appointment is a little bit different to a child’s: you come ALONE, and we can talk through your challenges. We’ll then test reflexes and work out where we need to concentrate. You will receive a programme, just like children do, of movements to do every single day for a month. Progress is reviewed monthly.
These appointments are YOUR time – they are your self care regime for the next few months.
If you have a child on the Move2Connect programme, you will receive a small discount on your initial assessment fee.
Support groups you may find helpful
If you are wishing to research some perspective from adults with retained reflexes some more before emailing me, you can join this Facebook group in order to find out more and research experiences, or compare notes once you are on programme.
For support in applying for Disability Living Allowance – which is care and mobility needs-based, and requires no formal diagnosis, this Facebook support group is useful.
If you have a child with asynchronous development (high IQ coupled with learning difficulties), this group is very supportive.
If you are looking for help in applying for an Education and Health Care Plan, to provide additional funding and support for your child at school, please join this group.
Please bear in mind that you can STILL do this, even if you start to see me – my work is a gradual process that takes patience and dedication – in the meantime, please do seek solid help for your child.
For SEN advocacy services, I can highly recommend How to be Heard. Additionally SOS-SEN are very helpful, and offer a free advice line.